Once upon a time, I thought living abroad was just plain great, well, it is to a certain extent or maybe it's just where I am now but there's this saying, 'there's no place like home'. I can't imagine myself saying this but after 1.5 years of being an alien, it is true. I do miss home especially my friends and family, the food and most of all, the familiarity, the sense of belonging.
From young, I always wanted to go overseas to further my education but unfortunately for me, coming from a typical traditional family, my dad prefers to spend his hard earned money on my sibling (the male).
Now I'm finally in 'overseas' literally not for education but for L-O-V-E. It's a big word and carries a lot of weight. For me, it was a big time sacrifice to give up my job, friends & family and my life for my Hubs especially coming from someone who almost have it all back home (friends, a job, car, family, independence, etc). Perhaps when I'm a decade younger, this will be a great adventure!
Of course, there are times I almost gave up and wanted to pack my bags and go home but then reality sets in. Perhaps I'm just feeling nostalgic as I know my life now is with my Hubs and being an alien is just secondary.
However, for my own well-being, I always believed in writing down the pros and cons of everything that requires extra attention, it somehow helps to lighten my burden. To begin with, here is the list of the :( of being an alien:-
1. Being alone most of the time is my constant companion
2. To learn a whole new language which by the way sounds like you're having something stuck in your throat
3. To adapt to the different culture - they serve vlaai as a 'birthday cake' and no birthday candles which by the way the birthday person pays for it, walking is a 'national' sport (they walked so much!), there's no megamalls and the ever convenient huge parking garages that comes with it, etc)
4. To retake my driving licence and they drive on the other side of the road
5. To adapt to the 4 seasons and reading the weather report is as important as reading the daily news. I used to laugh about it but now I can't live without the weather report before starting to plan my day ahead.
6. To schedule appointment months ahead in my agenda, spontaneous visit is frown upon
7. Taking the public transportation
8. Getting-to-know people from chats and forums (that is definitely a first for me)
9. Carrying plastic bags when I have to do grocery shopping
10. I don't get medicine from the doctors here unless I'm near dying. Paracetamol is the standard medicine given for any sickness - fever, cold, cough, hernia, migraine, sore throat, etc
11. I have to open gifts given to me on the spot with that person standing in front of me :P
12. I carry an umbrella in my handbag!
13. I start to hyperventilate when I see the sun! Totally and utterly happy!
14. At times I do get some sort of negative vibes just because I don't speak the language
The list of :) of being an alien:-
1. The simple pleasures of strolling in a park
2. Using very clean public toilets
3. Relatively safer country to live in
4. You don't have to lock you car doors while driving
5. I have to learn how to cook and it turned out that I do have a hidden talent for it ;)
6. I learn how to be independent
7. I rediscover the pleasure of cycling
8. To balance myself between a city gal vs nature gal
9. To see fat pigeons, birds, ducks, swans roaming freely everywhere without seeing them getting shot or hanging in one of those Chinese restaurants :P
10. There are no stray dogs and cats
11. Amazing to see the season changes from winter to spring, summer to autumn
But I can't help to hope that one day we will get to move back to Asia. The home of good food and great weather ;)